GOOD GIRLS GET MARRIED LATE

This is the trend nowadays. When you see a lady between the age of 25-35 years that is still single, what comes to your mind? (Don't lie o), you will start thinking: this one she's still single, who knows why she's not married up till now, maybe she's not a wife material, maybe she is not that beautiful, maybe she lived a way-ward life and different men have slept with her,  maybe she has a bad character or even maybe she's cursed or possessed or have a spiritual husband. Who told you that? What makes you even think like that?

Does it mean that all the girls getting married early (18-24 years), are the most beautiful, or have good character and wife materials? Who told you so too? If that is the way it is, then why are the men complaining that the true colors of their wife came out only after they got married? Some men will say that women are good pretenders, wait till you marry them. A proverb in my language (Igbo) even puts it as: Nwanyi bu Ngwugwu ekechiriekechi,  itope ya, ihe ihuru n'ime ya, iwere. (translation: a woman is like a wrapped gift, when you open it, whatever you see in it, you take). And that is the absolute truth, what you see is what you get, no more, no less, so you deal with it.

That is why, when I see men claiming they are look for wife material, I just wonder why they are confused. Many of them don't know what they want. Bunch of indecisive fellows. With these ugly orientation in vogue, that the relationship must transit from Bf/Gf to Courtship then maybe to marriage. Why the long transition? During the years of bf/gf, what happens? They co-habit. The gal assumes the role of a wife and likewise the guy. They fuck up and down, and sometimes commit abortion because of unwanted pregnancy, and then what? Suddenly, the guy sees the gal as unworthy to be his wife, he comes up with a fairy tale, ask about them few years later, you will hear they are no more together. Whose fault? The worst is that, most times, the both parties don't learn any lesson. They continue in that way. Even before the break up, the guy has started chasing another gal and the gal too has started looking for another guy to take care of her bills. Maybe this time, she is smarter, she will get pregnant for the next guy, and will not abort it so that the guy will marry her by fire by force, then tomorrow, you will hear they live like cat & dog.


When are we going to learn? When are we gonna understand that you will never know the true character of a person you are dating once sex is involved? How can you be asking God for a life partner and you are busy fornicating? You guys want a loyal woman right? But what you don't know is that, any woman can pretend to be loyal, just wait till she has moved in as a wife. You cannot determine who a wife material is simply because she washes your cloth, cooks for you, doesn't argue anything you say or do, and gives you her body at the same time. It's a lie! If she's doing all that, then you are far from knowing her true color and that is why after the marriage, you both will start having problems. You really didn't know each other before getting married.

Infact! The good ladies are the ones marrying late, you know why? Many of them are not ready to compromise their principles. You cannot use marriage to deceive them and get in between their legs. And for the men who say that women who are abstaining from sex doesn't make them wife materials. They are all liars! Yes! I stand to be corrected. The values a woman uphold is what defines who she is and it starts from opening/closing her legs till she's married. What is the point of being loyal to a man by giving him your body and cooking his meals when he might not be your husband eventually? Then it means that, if she dates 10 men before marriage, she has slept with 10 different men countless times. So that is what you guys want right?

The women now understand these, that is why they don't send anymore. They conveniently fornicate with you while you pay their bills and still foolishly marry them. So keep your complains to yourself because you guys caused all these...